What should i do now?

My fiance and i have been going through a rough patch lately. He says that everything is fine and he is happy with the relationship, but i feel the opposite way. He doesnt appreciate anything that i do. i can spend hours cleaning the house and he will come and mess things up without even thinking. He can be very lazy when it comes to household chores. I am the one who takes out the garbage most of the time! I believe a relationship should be 50/50 but he isnt doing his part. Usually when i cant take it any more i try to not clean and cook and let him get a feeling of how i feel but he will never lift a finger no matter how messy it gets (plus i hate being embarrassed by company). I have talked to him about this and He says that he is happy because he loves me and even when i make him angry he lets it slide because he says every moment is precious. I completely understand what he is saying, but i think he feels that way because i do everything to make him happy. I do so because i expect the same treatment back from him. Im not happy right now because i dont see any effort being put forth. What im going through isnt something i can just forget because everyday i will open my eyes and see that mess that he never bothers to clean up, or feeling unhappy because he never takes me out(besides the traditional movies and fridays or applebees). We have been together for three years so far, ad i just want the rest of our life to be enjoyable. I love him with all my heart and i feel like just leaving him would be a bit extreme. I think we can work this problem out, i just dont know how to do it without becoming a nag! Im not lazy i just want to be appreciated. Please Help!!What should i do now?
I assume you are pretty young and have a lot of time left in your life. If talking about the problem does not fix it, you COULD try seeing a counselor, but that tends not to help. Otherwise, I know it hurts, but there is no way to just change a person. He will be the same person for the rest of your life. Don't threaten him to do things or you will break up with him, because that solves the problem temporarily. You seem like a pretty stand up person. Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? Let me tell you, people do not change easily. Women tend to think they can change a man.....they can't. If problems are not solved by just talking, there is probably not a solution to your whole relationship problem.What should i do now?
MOVE ON*What should i do now?
I just recently and successfully kept my parents from divorcing because of these PDFs I read from Purdue University's website. Here's the link: http://www.cfs.purdue.edu/extension/children_families/couple_relationships.html